How to Teach Children Respect



    As a parent there are many things that we have to teach our children , from reading to even the small things like showing kindness and being grateful.As a parent it is very important for us to show the more valuable ideologies because we are their very first teachers that they have. 

    That being said it gives us a task of teaching skills that will build them up to be good role models in society, one of the most critical things that I feel a child should learn is how to be respectful towards others.

    Not only will it help them stay humble but it can also provide them with valuable knowledge from the experiences they will go through, that being said it is very important to remember that respect has to be shown in order for it to be earned.

    Making it essential for us to be patient when our young ones are trying to acquire this virtue, like all things parenting its a funny but long process so just relax and don’t stress about it.In this informative article , I’ll try to break down how you can effectively show them how to become respectful through various types of Tips and strategies.

    What is Respect  ?

    To start with we have to know what exactly it means in order for us to fully display it, so according to the dictionary it means having a deep feeling of admiration for someone or something elated by their abilities, qualities or achievements.

    The Oxford dictionary further goes on to say that it can be a due regard for the feelings,wishes,rights or traditions of others.

    How to Explaining Respect to Children ?

    Having said this it is essential to remember that this definition might only make sense to us as guardians and not so much for the children.

    This then causes me to poses a question to us , which is how can we then translate that meaning into something more understandable for the little ones to recognize.

    note : In order to make them knowledgeable they must fully understand whatever it is.

    Explaining this concept to them can be done in alot of ways, however I’ll start by giving you a more kid friendly definition of respect that you can give them

    “This is the act of considering someones feelings and treating them like you would want them to treat you “ - mom

    You can use that meaning as it is easier to explain to them, but another thing you can do is to use examples of when and how to be respectful.Not only will it allow them to appreciate you when they see it being done in real time but, will also help them remember it more vividly.

    Here are some examples

    • Telling them to listen to adults when they are talking
    • Telling Them name calling is not nice 
    • Not talking back to elders when being talked to 
    • Making sure that you follow whatever elders tell you and ask you to do

    And so on.

    So the above are just a few examples of how respect is shown, you can also find more of these examples on the website.

    Here are a few things that will help you when it comes to actually getting down and ready to help them become more admiring.8 Strategies on How to Teach Children Respect.

    1.Leading by example


    As mentioned earlier in the post we are our little ones first instructors as they enter into this world, that is why it is very essential for us to lead by example when it comes to this virtue.In order for us  to gain respect it has to be shown, making it our responsibility to play our part.

    Children usually learn by seeing and then repeating what they have seen, so try to be the best role model you can be in their lives.

    Leading by example also means you’ll have to show them the same leave of admiration that you would demand, doing this can be difficult at times but it just has to be done. In order for it to be returned.

    So try by all means to listen to them when they talk or even give them the privacy of their own, its small things like this that can really give you success when it comes to achieving what you want.

    Another thing you can do in terms of being their model, is that you can show them that owning up for mistakes is important too.This not only shows them that its good practise to apologize for mistakes but also a great way to show them how to be accountable.

    2.The Earlier You Notice the better


    The next thing you must do in order to change them is to notice what might be causing them to act a certain way,noticing a change can be a great way to start changing there mentality.

    Sometimes children might act disrespectful because there needs aren’t being meet, therefore talking to them and having that one on one conversion might actually make a difference on how the react towards you and others.

    Finding out what is causing them to act the way they are is definitely one of the best ways to approach the problem, because most of the time we rush towards punishment when sometimes all they might need are some sweet words from the ones they love and they’ll be ready for change.

    Another word of advise is that you’ll have to be very quick in detecting a change in their attitude, because if you let them off the hook it can cause them to get fed up of this process once it is started and make them distant towards you.

     Tip #1 : Try to bond with them as often as you can as this will help create a stronger bond making it easier for you to teach them anything.

    3.Managing Their Content

    I find this a useful factor that parents usually miss when it comes to teaching their children how to be 
    Respectful, making them listen to or watch helpful content is very important as it helps them learn
     Much faster.

    Having said that it becomes imperative for us guardians to Give them appropriate content that teaches them about respect, it can be through watching Youtube videos, cartoons, or even movies as long as it has a positive impact on their personality in terms of attentiveness as well as consideration.
    Managing the content they watch is really essential in the up bringing of your child in general because according to the website the brain makes it easy for us to remember what we have seen, this makes it a really good technique.

    So does the content your child watch help them grow in any way and if it doesn’t what measures have you put into place to change that ? , so try as much as possible to feed them good quality information from a young age.

    Tip #2 : You can try to make the shows that are fun and exciting but allow them to impart something special.


    The act of training someone to follow the rule or obey code using a punishment is what we all refer to 
    as discipline , sometimes you might just have to put a bit more emphasis on getting the message 
    Through to them.

    Showing them some form of discipline might be need even if you are trying to teach 
    Them to be respectful , however try not to be too harsh with whatever punishment that you are 
    giving them as this make the resist you and make them even draw further away from you which is 
    something no parent would want for there child.

    Adjusting the means of punishment and still staying respectful of them is a good way to get started, 
    also some parents might thinking that disciplining your children harshly is wrong but sometimes in 
    order for them to stop doing something bad they have to be shown the after effects.

    Another thing you can do before disciplining them is briefly engaging in conversations with them and 
    talk to them about what happened, this helps you to listen to what the they have to say and hear out 
    their side of the story.

    In doing this you are not only showing them respect but also giving them a different angle on how 
    they too can handle things in a calm manner , besides there just might be a somewhat valid reason for 
    them acting out .

    So don’t be too quick to put your foot down just yet , try to ask them why and let them explain.

    Tip #3 : This is essential as it also, helps in building a stronger bond between you and them that will also benefit them at a later stage too , communication is key.


    5.By Showing Respect to Others

    This can also be listed under being a role model but it has to be stressed differently, it is very essential 
    That as grown ups we display this virtue not only to your children but also to other people too.

    Because I remember as a kid I used to notice how my parents used to treat people to see if they 
    would stick to what they said and it turns out they would stick to what that they said, it turns out they 
    did atleast most of the times.

    So being mindful of how you treat people whilst your kids is very important and to add on , it also 
    makes it a good thing to tell close friends and family members to have the right behaviour when they 
    are around your young ones.

    This will help create a good environment for them to actively grow in the correct manner, making it
    Even easier for them to gain great morals as they see them as norms.

    Tip #4 : Surrounding them with the right people will prevent them from adopting things that might make 
    them from learning things that might make them disrespectful , also try as much as possible to get 
    Friends for them that will add on to them instead of destroying them.

    6.Using Practical Examples

    Sometimes the best way to get the point across on becoming more respectful is to practice some examples by literally showing them, I know this might sound like something that might be irrelevant but it can be very useful to them.

    Acknowledging that kids don’t understand things the way you do is very important to keep in mind and using this strategy can be great tool to use , so showing them some sample scenes and acting them out in a fun fashion.

    Doing this will not only make them get excited about learning but also allow them to take up the information more easily , another plus is that It will reduce the risk of rejecting this.

    7.Be Patient and Consistent

    As with all things parenting it is very important that you maintain the same level of consistency and patient when it comes to your methods of choice, because sometimes these methods might take alittle while in order for them to actually come to pass.

    Therefore with frequent passing you’ll be able to succeed in whatever you are doing.So don’t get frustrated if they don’t get it the first or second time because they are just little after all so be patient they will eventually get it.

    Another thing is that you shouldn’t over estimate your expectations when it comes to teaching respect as it has to be shown in order for it to be earned.

    Also try and make this experience a fun and memorable one it definitely helps them to take in the information more easily , so don’t be too serious and try not to stress too much about it because it will all be alright in the end.

    Tip #5 : Try not to Jump to conclusions each time they do something that you might not approve of ,  So try to stay chilled and relaxed as this too is showing them a great amount of respect towards them.

    8.Good deeds Shouldn’t go Unnoticed

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    Respect is something that is earn and not given right ? , so it can be nice of you to show some 
    Gratitude towards them when they do something that is good.

    This will motivate them and help them to consistently practice it, it will also build up momentum to 
    Make them try harder to thrive and achieve even more positive morals.

    In an article that was posted on the Daniel Wong website, it stated that sometimes children might just 
    want to get that special approval, which I believe is very true and sometimes has to be given in a very 
    special way.

    However it is essential that we shouldn’t by any means merit bad behaviour as this will make them think that acting that kind of way might be good , when in actual sense it isn’t at all so that should be something that must be taken note of in that respect.

    Tip #6: Reward them for the good they do and don’t make them try to push you to change or alter their rewards.

    Another important point to remember is that using family time to bond with your little ones comes 
    in handy whenever you are trying to show them something new, the bond between you and the 
    mainly determines how they will respond to what they are being shown.

    So you can try to set up particular days of the week in which you can use up that time to do things Together as a family.


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