As a parent there are many things that we have to teach our children , from reading to even the small
things like showing kindness and being grateful.
As a parent it is very important for us to show the more valuable ideologies because we are their very first
teachers that they have. That being said it gives us a task of teaching skills that will build them up to be
good role models in society. one of the most critical things that I feel a child should learn is how to be
respectful towards others. Not only will it help them stay humble but it can also provide them with
valuable knowledge from the experiences they will go through.
That being said it is very important to remember that respect has to be shown in order for it to be earned.
Making it essential for us to be patient when our young ones are trying to acquire this virtue.
like all things parenting its a funny but long process so just relax and don’t stress about it.
In this informative article , I’ll try to break down how you can effectively show them how to become
respectful through various types of Tips and strategies.
What is Respect ?
To start with we have to know what exactly it means in order for us to fully display it.
so according to the dictionary it means having a deep feeling of admiration for someone or something
elated by their abilities, qualities or achievements.
The Oxford dictionary further goes on to say that it can be a due regard for the feelings,wishes,rights or
traditions of others.
How to Explaining Respect to Children ?
Having said this it is essential to remember that this definition might only make sense to us as guardians
and not so much for the children. This then causes me to poses a question to us , which is how can we
then translate that meaning into something more understandable for the little ones to recognize.
note : In order to make them knowledgeable they must fully understand whatever it is.
Explaining this concept to them can be done in alot of ways, however I’ll start by giving you a more kid
friendly definition of respect that you can give them.
“This is the act of considering someones feelings and treating them like you would want them to treat you “ - mom
You can use that meaning as it is easier to explain to them, but another thing you can do is to use
examples of when and how to be respectful. Not only will it allow them to appreciate you when they see it
being done in real time but, will also help them remember it more vividly.
Here are some examples
Telling them to listen to adults when they are talking
Telling Them name calling is not nice
Not talking back to elders when being talked to
Making sure that you follow whatever elders tell you and ask you to do
And so on. So the above are just a few examples of how respect is shown, you can also find more of these
examples on the talkingtreebook.com website.
8 Strategies on How to Teach Children Respect.
Here are some of the tips that will help you when it comes to making sure that your child becomes a
honorable member of society.
1.Leading by being respectful to your children
As mentioned earlier in the post we are our little ones first instructors as they enter into this world, that is
why it is very essential for us to lead by example when it comes to this virtue. In order for us to gain
respect it has to be shown, making it our responsibility to play our part. Children usually learn by seeing
and then repeating what they have seen, so try to be the best role model you can be in their lives.
Leading by example also means you’ll have to show them the same leave of admiration that you would
demand. Doing this can be difficult at times but it just has to be done. In order for it to be returned.
So try by all means to listen to them when they talk or even give them the privacy of their own.
its small things like this that can really give you success when it comes to achieving what you want.
Another thing you can do in terms of being their model, is that you can show them that owning up for
mistakes is important too.
This not only shows them that its good practise to apologize for mistakes but also a great way to show
them how to be accountable.
2.Notice Your childs Patterns
The next thing you must do in order to change them is to notice what might be causing them to act a
certain way.noticing a change can be a great way to start changing there mentality.Sometimes children
might act disrespectful because there needs aren’t being meet.Therefore talking to them and having that
one on one conversion might actually make a difference on how the react towards you and others.
Finding out what is causing them to act the way they are is definitely one of the best ways to approach the
problem. This might be because most of the time we rush towards punishment when sometimes all they
might need are some sweet words from the ones they love and they’ll be ready for change.
Another word of advise is that you’ll have to be very quick in detecting a change in their attitude,
because if you let them off the hook it can cause them to get fed up of this process once it is started and
make them distant towards you.
Tip #1 : Try to bond with them as often as you can as this will help create a stronger bond making it
easier for you to teach them anything.
3.Managing The Content they watch
I find this a useful factor that parents usually miss when it comes to teaching their children how to be
respectful, making them listen to or watch helpful content is very important as it helps them learn much
Having said that it becomes imperative for us guardians to Give them appropriate content that teaches
them about respect, it can be through watching Youtube videos, cartoons, or even movies as long as it
has a positive impact on their personality in terms of attentiveness as well as consideration.
Managing the content they watch is really essential in the up bringing of your child in general because
according to the fastcompany.com website the brain makes it easy for us to remember what we have
seen, this makes it a really good technique.
So does the content your child watch help them grow in any way and if it doesn’t what measures have you
put into place to change that ? so try as much as possible to feed them good quality information from a
Tip #2 : You can try to make the shows that are fun and exciting but allow them to impart something
4.Discipline your Children
The act of training someone to follow the rule or obey code using a punishment is what we all refer to as
discipline . Sometimes you might just have to put a bit more emphasis on getting the message through to
them. Showing them some form of discipline might be need even if you are trying to teach Them to be
However try not to be too harsh with whatever punishment that you are giving them. As this makes them
resist you and cause them to draw further away from you which is something no parent would want
for there child. Adjusting the means of punishment and still staying respectful of them is a good way to
get started. Also some parents might thinking that disciplining your children harshly is wrong but
sometimes in order for them to stop doing something bad they have to be shown the after effects.
Another thing you can do before disciplining them is briefly engaging in conversations with them and talk
to them about what happened. This helps you to listen to what the they have to say and hear out their
side of the story. In doing this you are not only showing them respect but also giving them a different
angle on how they too can handle things in a calm manner. Besides there just might be a somewhat valid
reason for them acting out . So don’t be too quick to put your foot down just yet , try to ask them why and
let them explain.
Tip #3 : This is essential as it also, helps in building a stronger bond between you and them that will also
benefit them at a later stage too , communication is key.
5.Kids learn Respect when you show it towards others
This can also be listed under being a role model but it has to be stressed differently, it is very essential.
That as grown ups we display this virtue not only to your children but also to other people too.
Because I remember as a kid I used to notice how my parents used to treat people to see if they would
stick to what they said and it turns out they would stick to what that they said. it turns out they did atleast
most of the times. So being mindful of how you treat people whilst your kids is very important and to add
it also makes it a good thing to tell close friends and family members to have the right behaviour
when they are around your young ones. This will help create a good environment for them to actively
grow in the correct manner. Making it even easier for them to gain great morals as they see them as
Tip #4 : Surrounding them with the right people will prevent them from adopting things that might
make them from learning things that might make them disrespectful .
Also try as much as possible to get friends for them that will add on to them instead of destroying them.
6.Teach Respect Through Examples
Sometimes the best way to get the point across on becoming more respectful is to practice some
examples by literally showing them.I know this might sound like something that might be irrelevant but it
can be very useful to them. Acknowledging that kids don’t understand things the way you do is very
important to keep in mind and using this strategy can be great tool to use. so showing them some sample
scenes and acting them out in a fun fashion.Doing this will not only make them get excited about learning
but also allow them to take up the information more easily, another plus is that It will reduce the risk of
7.Respect comes Through Patience and Consistent
As with all things parenting it is very important that you maintain the same level of consistency and
patient when it comes to your methods of choice. This is because sometimes these methods might take
alittle while in order for them to actually come to pass. Therefore with frequent passing you’ll be able to
succeed in whatever you are doing.
So don’t get frustrated if they don’t get it the first or second time because they are just little after all so be
patient they will eventually get it. Another thing is that you shouldn’t over estimate your expectations
when it comes to teaching respect as it has to be shown in order for it to be earned.
Also try and make this experience a fun and memorable one it definitely helps them to take in the
information more easily . so don’t be too serious and try not to stress too much about it because it will all
be alright in the end.
Tip #5 : Try not to Jump to conclusions each time they do something that you might not approve of .
So try to stay chilled and relaxed as this too is showing them a great amount of respect towards them.
8.Good deeds Shouldn’t go Unnoticed
Respect is something that is earn and not given right ? .So it can be nice of you to show some gratitude
towards them when they do something that is good. This will motivate them and help them to
consistently practice it, it will also build up momentum to make them try harder to thrive and achieve
even more positive morals.In an article that was posted on the Daniel Wong website, it stated that
sometimes children might just want to get that special approval, which I believe is very true and
sometimes has to be given in a very special way. However it is essential that we shouldn’t by any means
merit bad behaviour as this will make them think that acting that kind of way might be good .
When in actual sense it isn’t at all so that should be something that must be taken note of in that respect.
Tip #6: Reward them for the good they do and don’t make them try to push you to change or alter their rewards.
Another important point to remember is that using family time to bond with your little ones comes in
handy whenever you are trying to show them something new. The bond between you and the mainly
determines how they will respond to what they are being shown. So you can try to set up particular days
of the week in which you can use up that time to do things Together as a family.